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Five books about sex, love, and diversity

A book is a concentrated experience, but its main difference from a video is that this concentration of thoughts, experiences, and scientific conclusions is obtained more slowly, more thoughtfully, and therefore, most likely, more consciously. And, remember, audiobooks are also books, and if you are more comfortable listening, that's the way it is.

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Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - and Keep - Love

by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

This book is a practical guide to attachment theory for those wishing to find a partner or improve their current union. Dr. Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel Heller look at love through the lens of attachment theory and redefine relationships. They explain why some people find romantic relationships easy, while others suffer time after time.

We usually hear about attachment theory in the context of parenting. Amir Levin and Rachel Heller have applied this theory to romantic relationships between adults - and the results have been impressive. They explained how people with different types of attachment behave in relationships, why they cannot do otherwise, and how this knowledge can be used to improve the quality of life.

Levin and Heller question current theories about human self-sufficiency. According to their research, people can and should depend on each other; such secure relationships make us strong and independent in the outside world.

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

by Esther Perel

Lots of acceptance, warmth, explanation, and advice from experienced psychotherapist Esther Perel on how to maintain the passion of the early days of falling in love in a long-term relationship.

The book's author said it best succinctly:

"Love is torn to know everything, and desire doesn't live without mystery and the unknown. Love reduces the distance between partners, but desire goes out in the absence of that distance. Intimacy arises on the basis of routine, and eroticism in the face of repetition is dulled. Mystery, novelty, surprise are necessary to maintain sexual attraction.

Love seeks to have - desire is important to want. Desire requires the object of attention to slip away all the time and maintain a certain inaccessibility. It is not so important what has already happened as much as what may yet happen. And all too often partners find themselves entangled in the comfort that love brings and forget that the fire of desire needs to be maintained. And there is no burning without air."

The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality

by Julie Sondra Decker

It is generally accepted that every person seeks sexual activity, and that there is a universal understanding of sexual attraction. However, it is important to recognize that there are people who perceive sex differently and do not experience sexual attraction.

It is understandable that those close to asexual people may be concerned, but it is important to approach this topic with understanding and respect. Asexuality is not a hoax or an attempt to hide an illness or problem.

The book Invisible Orientation, written by Julie Sandra Decker, deals with the subject of asexuality, debunking the lies and providing scientific evidence. The author sheds light on the experiences of those who consider themselves asexual by exploring their lives in a highly sexualized society. This book is a valuable resource both for asexual people seeking to understand their orientation and its impact on relationships, and for those who want to understand their asexual friends and loved ones.

Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality

by Julia Shaw

Julia Shaw is well aware of the debates and doubts surrounding bisexuality. She defines "bisexuality" as an umbrella term that encompasses a range of identities: bisexual, pansexual, plurisexual, polysexual, sexfluid, and bi-curious.

Shaw argues against the notion that bisexuality reinforces binary thinking. Her book is a witty and incisive look at the history of bisexuality and the contributions of prominent bisexual personalities. She invites readers to make sense of their own sexual identities and demonstrates tools for exploring and understanding their experiences.

Shaw sheds light on the challenges facing the bisexual community and emphasizes the importance of building supportive bi-communities and its representation in the media. She also offers ideas on how bisexuals in monogamous relationships can remain visible and maintain their authenticity.

Ask a Queer Chick: A Guide to Sex, Love, and Life

for Girls Who Dig Girls

by Lindsay King-Miller

In front of you – a detailed guide to sex, love and life. This book cuts through all the weird attitudes from parents, romantic comedies, and TV shows to help lesbian readers and their friends navigate this fast-paced world. Here you'll find advice for all occasions of queer life: coming out for the first time, getting your first gay haircut, or walking down the aisle.


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